Are you searching for that special someone?
For the Christian, dating is not necessarily an easy process. Questions arise as to how can you meet someone at church? Or how do you know if someone is available or even interested in a relationship?
Over the years I have heard these questions asked on numerous occasions by Christians. The ache in the heart of humans for intimacy with another is God created, and it's a good thing, for God Himself has said it is not good for a man to be alone (Gen 2:18 ) Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord."
While it is true that a very small percent of the Christian population have a gift that enables them to remain single, for the majority this is not the case. Notice in Gen 2:18 that God did not say to Adam..."you are in the garden of eden, and you have Me, therefore you do not need anyone else. Rather than desiring a wife you need to learn to be a better single, a happier single." No, instead God addresses Adam's needs and gave him Eve.
A common question asked is this, "shouldn't I just have faith and let God bring me my wife/husband?" We must have faith in God for sure, but it also requires a little effort on our part. Scripture clearly states that faith with out works is deed. In other words, if we are believing God for something but are never acting out our faith, then we cannot expect to receive much from God. (James 2:14-26)
We can see examples of Godly people taking active steps to change their marital situation if we read the stories of Abraham and Ruth.
In Genesis 24 Abraham wanted to find a wife for his son . Rather than have Isaac marry an unsuitable woman, Abraham sent his trusted servant with instructions to go to his home town to find a suitable woman from among his own people to be Isaac's wife. Even though it was God's will to make a great nation from Isaac and Rebekah's union, Rebekah didn't just come trotting by Isaac's tent one day. Abraham had to make an effort to find Isaac a wife. He had a plan of action and carried it out with faith that God would help. Obviously the bible is not teaching that our marriage should be arranged. Arranged marriages were a normal part Abraham's culture and time. My point here is that there had to be some kind of action taking place together with his faith.
Ruth did not sit back and wait for Boaz to come to her, neither was it a case of being in the right place at the right time, but she took action and went after him by lying at boaz's feet (a cultural thing). Naomi -Ruths mother in-law- told Ruth to make herself attractive to boaz. You can read the story in the book of Ruth, it's a wonderful story of love and second chances.
Sometimes, in order to give Jesus the opportunity to bring that special someone, you need to get moving.
One such practical way to get moving would be to use the Christian internet dating sites. Dating sites in the past have not been viewed favourably by the masses. Anyone using such a site would do so in secret. However, things are different today, with a growing population of Christian and non Christian people utilising web dating services.
Perhaps you are considering using a dating service, perhaps you have given much thought to it and prayed at length concerning finding a good site. If this is true for you, may I suggest you try Christian Dating For Free.com. You will not need to get your credit card out because this service is absolutely free. However, like anything in the Lord, if we are being blessed by a ministry it is good to donate.
One final thought, let us not judge those who choose to use these services. God has many creative ways of connecting people, the internet being just one of them. May God bless every believers journey, Amen.
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"Remember he who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord